KIMCHI CUDDLES

Trauma Bonding :(
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Resurfacing after a trauma bond relationship can feel incredibly disorienting and agonizing.
It feels like someone expertly picked the lock to the center of my heart, turned on the lights in all the secret rooms of my hopes and dreams, and then proceeded to set them all on fire.

And the person who did this to me was my best friend, deepest confidant, the person who understood me more than I thought anyone ever could.
But trauma bonding creates an intensity in connection that is at least partially a lie. True love doesn’t require that I sacrifice my peace.

The person intermittently stabbing me and then gently treating my wounds might not be aware of what he’s doing or why he’s doing it, but it doesn’t really matter.“I love you so much. You are my favorite person. You are my cosmic wife throughout all timelines. Now get the hell away from me.”
The hardest part is that I know parts of it were real. But I need to lean into my supports and safeties APART from him. Because I know that he doesn’t need a key to walk straight into the depths of my soul whenever he wants to, and I know I can’t trust him in there right now.

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