One of my love languages is efficiency, so I’m sharing how that relates to EMOTIONAL PROCESSING through this creative communication tool: TikvaWolf.com/games
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Panel 1: “Emotional processing doesn’t need to be something that happens for hours every night…” (image of one exhausted partner saying: “it’s 10pm but we need to talk!” while the other exhausted partner replies: “ok I’ll make more coffee!”). Panel 2: “And if it is, it’s possible that the processing you’re doing together is actually just slapping a bandaid on the real issue over and over while missing hitting the root of the problem. That’s not sustainable!” (image of two people looking miserable, covered in bandaids). Panel 3: “There are many tools that can help processing relationship issues be more effective, but many of them can also be misused and cause MORE harm if there is a power imbalance that isn’t being directly addressed at the same time.” (image of a white man condescendingly telling a black woman: “Let me use this nonviolent-talking technique to explain how you SHOULD be feeling right now instead of the trauma response you’re having.”). Panel 4: “I designed the the communication tool ORBIT trying to take all that into account, with the cards and structure of the game acting as a mediator and way to practice respecting each other’s time and boundaries. It’s available for free download at TikvaWolf.com” (image of Kim talking to you, and handing you a card deck).]