cw: abuse
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Panel 1:
PBG: “Abuse is possible in ANY relationship dynamic, and is hard to recognize when you’re in it. But because polyamory is already outside the box, it can be especially difficult to tell whether something is abusive.”
Panel 2:
“There’s a focus on "inner work” as a solution to EVERY problem, and gaslighting from a group is even more disorienting than from just one person.“ (image of group angrily pointing at a sad person).
Panel 3:
PBG: "Abuse in a polyamorous dynamic might look like:”
- Being accepted in the group is dependant on sexual participation.
- If you’re having a hard time, you just need to work on yourself more.- Your identity is discarded unless you conform your behavior.- If you need ANY support, you will become demoted.- You are not allowed privacy.- Rules are created without your input.- Being told your NEEDS are unreasonable.
Panel 4:
“If something feels wrong, it probably IS! Leaning into some amount of discomfort for growth is OK if that’s what you’re into, but it should never feel like unmanageable pain!” (image of sad person from 2nd panel clutching chest with pained face).